In reality, the vast majority of the people fall within the ‘average ” range of the so-called Bell Curve. Most people are average in all the many things we seem to need to have to succeed past life’s challenges and to go to the finish line with a prize—intelligence, aptitudes, motivation, self-confidence, energy, creativity, personality, good looks, wealth, health, happiness, moral development, and a slew of other characteristics and skills.
Although most people are in fact just average, many struggle with accepting and dealing with that bleak reality given the over-glamorized, unrealistically ideal image and results loudly packaged by the mass-marketing media machine (4-M). For many average people, the discrepancy between where they’re and where they ‘d like to be, with a little influence from 4-M, is too vast to want to do something about it. In too many instances, the result is a sad, quiet life of desperation going unsung.
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Quickly: what seems to be the average of twenty eight and negative four? It is twelve (28-4 = 24. 24 divided by 2 is 12).
First, it is usually a good idea to better understand and accept the reality that growing your acceptance and patience with time is perhaps the main test in life that puts all mankind together in the same boat. This is true no matter how high up on the Totem Pole the IQ, happiness thermometer, achievements, good looks, bank accounts, work success, or anything else are. If there is something that we can all call the same common monkey on our back, it is in having to face unacceptable things that we all have to finally learn to accept and become more patient with. Death goes a very long way to make a level playing field, of course.
The greatest gifts we’re all given equally at birth are opportunity, choices and time. Even average people have the very same and equal opportunity and time to make all the right choices to get somewhere good in life. The thing to accept here is that it just might take a little more, be a harder road to travel on and require more effort, than is advertised by the 4-M. But my personal experience has been that the longer I had to wait for something good to happen and the more effort I made in an attempt to make it happen, the more I enjoyed what I ended up with, even with just an ‘average ” prize.
Each person in the Bell Curve, from the middle to both ends, is given a unique mission in life and a special gift to accomplish that personal purpose. Success equally eludes anyone—no matter where he or she’s under the Bell Curve—until that unique purpose is discovered and the gift is established and used to get results in helping us all unravel the self-imposed limits of this monstrous, hostage-taking Bell Curve.
We invented the Bell Curve as a short cut to predict important things like achievement potential in school and work, so we could see the end before it happened. In doing so, we crammed a lot of untrue realities in the midst of this Bell Curve that have had very unhappy endings for too many good people. Of course what we ‘invented ” we can just as easily un-invent, particularly when it becomes obsolete, like all the seemingly best things usually do sooner or later. This is what popular new ‘theories ” do, like The Secret or Positive Psychology—trying to make us more conscious of the reality of unlimited human potential to go beyond average in ways we never imagined.
Opportunity, time, and choices are really all equally distributed, no matter what your present perception may be. And’ Average ” is just a word used by people who do not want their particular spot on the Bell Curve too crowded. In the end, the Bell Curve is just a pencil line that can be readily erased. It never really existed anyway.